We all know that weddings are stressful, and it’s only natural that every bride wants her big day to be completely perfect. However if you are starting to realise that even your nearest and dearest have started to back away when the venue is mentioned or the topic of flowers is raised, it’s time to take a good look at yourself, because it’s quite possible that you’ve become a bridezilla.
While we may all think that the Bridezilla is a fictional character that is only found in movies, in fact she is alive and breathing, and terrorising wedding planners, florists and photographers up and down the country. Whether you’re getting married in church, on a beach or in a hotel, it makes no difference – the Bridezilla can be anywhere and she can wreck friendships and tear families apart without realising just how much trouble she’s causing.
Do you think you may have turned into a Bridezilla while planning your special day? Here are some signs to look out for.
Obsession With Matching Items
From the napkins to the chair covers and from the centrepieces to the floral arrangements, if you’ve become obsessed with everything on your big day being precisely the same shade of blue, pink or lilac, you may be displaying the first sign of being a Bridezilla. Accept that not everything will be matching and that it will all be ok.
The Bridesmaids Can’t Stand Their Dresses, But You Don’t Care
Your bridesmaids are some of the most important ladies in your life and they’re going to play a major role on your wedding day. That means that what they think is really important and you should listen to them. It may be your special day, but think about it, will it really be truly special if you know in your heart that your bridesmaids aren’t happy? If they hate their dresses, you should seriously think again and try to come up with a compromise that you’ll all be happy with.
You’re Not Taking The Groom’s Ideas On Board
Bridezillas seem to forget that it isn’t only their wedding day, it’s their husband-to-be’s too. So he should have a say in the arrangements, and if you’re not listening to his wishes or opinions, that’s not a good sign. While many guys acknowledge that their big day is especially important to their bride, it can’t all be about you, so take the time to discuss his requests and ask if there’s any personal touches he wants to add. Marriage is all about compromise, so start as you mean to go on.
You’re Harassing The Guests With Complicated Rules
Your guests are happy to co-operate with you so that you can have the wedding day you’ve been dreaming of, but if you start overloading them with ridiculous rules and complicated demands, you’ll be lucky if anyone attends at all. Tone it down a bit – it doesn’t really matter if someone turns up in the same colour as the bridesmaid’s dresses or if someone takes a snap of the bride and groom that wasn’t posed by the photographer – at the end of the day, a wedding should be all about having fun and enjoying yourself, so relax and let it go.